Sounds like many of us have been there & gone through that. I spent 33 years in a bad marriage that was bad from the beginning (even before the beginning remembering back to the red flags & had forgotten about until when I finally walked out).

Been through that..."but I did make changes" They were so small that I sure NEVER saw them. The final words that I keep hearing over & over was "I thought you would just tolerate me for the rest of our lives since you tolerated me this long"

There is only so much toleration that can happen & I didn't realize that all my suicide attempts were not a cry for help but my attempt to get out of where I felt so trapped. Was choosing death to living like that, but no one knew it at the time, not even me....it was blamed on the loss of my career & not the bad marriage because he was a NICE person......but the rest of the financial irresponsibility & lack of emotional connection & ability to communicate. Looking back the only reason that it lasted as long as it did was because I threw myself into my degree & then into my computer engineering career & when it ended I had no where to hide any longer.

Wow was that an enlightening thing to realize that I didn't even understand until several years after I finally did leave. It's been an awesome 9 years since I left. Wouldn't trade it for anything. Best thing I ever did in my life & only thing I have truly done to take care of ME.