Control is definitely a huge aspect of anorexia & ED's in general.....or sometimes a comfort for lack of control when the ED goes in the other direction.

There is so much behind ED's than just the desire to be thin. Those people are only a small part of the REAL causes for ED's but sadly, the treatment centers seem to only focus on them from my own personal experience. They weren't looking at the real cause.

It's difficult to find the definition of who we are. I have finally found it after leaving a bad marriage after 33 years. Little did I realize at the time that the stress (which causes me to not feel like eating) of the bad marriage was the long term trigger & why the trigger didn't go away like other stresses did & why the anorexia got so bad the first time it hit. Triggered by a medication I was on but fed (no pun intended) by the stress of the bad marriage that I realized later on, I was attempting suicide to escape from in the first place. None of my therapy at the time ever tied it all together until I finally left the marriage & got into good therapy & now have totally found myself in my alone happiness.

Just make sure that your marriage is for love & not expecting it to FIX your problems. No one can fix our problems other than ourselves.