They live over an hour away. I have limited my interactions with them, to my wife's chagrin (I refused to go to see them on a few holidays). We did go to a wedding last Saturday, and it went pretty well. I'm going to try and start engaging with them again, to see if I at least can understand their reasoning.

One of my biggest problems in the past (I think... ) has been to tell my wife about my complaints regarding her family. I think it may be beneficial to keep those complaints to myself. I've been trying lately, to make as few judgments as possible (about anything), and it's been helping me lead a more satisfying life.

For example, if I'm with a person who eats messily, I merely think, "that guy makes a mess when he eats", without making any other judgments.