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Ceara1010 · 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Marylin

Hi Ceara,
I really feel for you I know how much shock and horror you must feel having someone without permission enter your home.Do you know who this man is,were you involved with him in the past?

Can you afford a simple burglar alarm which would go off every time he enters.Then you can report to police.

Yes, it's scary, and very, very violating. And it makes you think you are going crazy--which I think is the point, they want to make you crazy.

I think I know who it is, but am not 100% sure. Around the time the break-ins began, I was going to school, and was sexually harassed by a professor of mine. (He got sent on a leave of absence because of it.) The stalking began as hang-up phone calls. So I changed my phone number, and that's when the break-ins began. (I had read in a book on stalkers that this is common--everything you do to block them, they take as a challenge to overcome.)

I made a police report years ago, but they told me they can't do anything unless I can present them with some proof in the form of video of him in my house. I'm hoping I can get my father to pay for a security system that includes video surveillance so I can finally catch this man. (So far, he is not supportive.)

I never got a burglar alarm because he never breaks in while I'm home. And there's no neighbors around during the day to pay notice to an alarm going off. I can't afford one of those alarms that calls the police, and this wouldn't work anyway because he would just rush in, move something, and rush back out again, before the police got there.

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Originally Posted by Marylin

You and I both know how scary and disorientating having someone do this gaslighting is!Then there is the added injury if people don't believe you.

Yes, very disorienting. I saw the movie Gas Light (the Ingrid Bergman one) and it gave me chills as the portrayal of the victim's disintegration is so accurate.

Possible trigger:

Trauma and PTSD symptoms gradually led to severe trauma and PTSD symptoms. Eventually, I had a breakdown during which I actually did become temporarily delusional--but they were trauma delusions, not schizophrenic delusions.

Because of this, my family had me arrested (the cop broke my hand in the process) and diagnosed schizophrenic by a Pdoc that never even talked to me. He had me committed to a psych hospital where they doped me up on Haldol which made me so zombie-like I couldn't tell anyone my whole story. Later, I was sent to a residential community for people with mental illness, where they continued to drug me into oblivion.

I started to play along, and quit talking about the stalking to make them think I was "no longer delusional." This worked and they soon took me off the Haldol.

Once I was lucid again, I began to be able to gradually tell my story to my therapist. At first she still didn't believe me, but gradually she saw I wasn't delusional about this. Now she believes me about the whole thing. (But it's bruised her ego a lot because she's not the type to admit she's wrong.)

I eventually left the residential program, and when I got a new Pdoc, I told her about the stalking, and she believed me without question. My sister does now, too.

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Originally Posted by Marylin

have reported my sister to the police,they will be round to my home tomorrow evening to take a report,I hope they will act against my sister or warn her off,.....I am praying to God the police question her ,catch her out so she admits it,I can't prove she did it see.

Yes, you definitely want to make a police report. But they may not be able to do anything about your sister until you can prove she was in your house. (That's the way it is where I live.)

I see you are in the UK, so I am very interested in how the police deal with this kind of abuse and harassment.

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Originally Posted by Marylin

I don't know if they will react different when they find out about my mental illness,that is the trouble

Me, too. I worry about how the fact I was misdiagnosed as schizophrenic and hospitalized might discredit me in the eyes of others. I need to get a new therapist, and this makes me afraid to look for one as they might not believe me and I'd hate to go through that again.

Hang in there, and please keep me posted on how things go regarding your situation with your sister.

--Ceara1010