I sometimes like the reassurance that there are "others" out there and I can "blend in" like it's nothing but other times when I'm a mess and doing the worst of my acting out :-) I prefer it be more private. When my T was away the first time for 6 weeks, I "forgot" when I was supposed to see her again. I figured out which day (I had been seeing her twice a week) and then took that day off work and went really early and sat in the hallway (it was in an apartment building), leaning against "our" door until she showed up! I think one would get too many comments if you tried doing that with a lot of people around :-)