As I start my search for new therapists, this is the time where I can best have a sharp eye for good or bad T traits. Once attachment starts I don't see things clearly. I get way too attached and see the therapist in a distorted way.

It sounds like some of you have much more balanced attachment to your T's. You are fond of them but it doesn't feel like death if you have to part ways. How do you do that? Is is the difference of having a significant other in your life? Did you have a healthy sense of attachment already and that wasn't what you are working on?

I think I'm doing therapy wrong. Leaving a relative stranger shouldn't hurt this much. Wondering what I should do differently next time.