I'm not sure how much you can control such things. Don't think it's anything to do with a significant other, given some stories on here.

I guess I would say for me every therapy relationship I have entered has had a finite end point at the very beginning - college therapist, I was graduating soon, Nos. 1 and 2, I knew I'd be moving for work at the end of the year, No. 3, I knew I'd be moving back home within 6 months. It made it easier to see them as temporary help or something, and I don't miss any of them and don't expect to miss No. 3. But it would be very hard to mimic that when you are settled in one place and I assume you want to see someone for a while.

But while the pain and distortion are bad things, maybe the underlying attachment is not? Does it help you in therapy, do you think? (Again, overall, not just based on what you're feeling now.). The distortion, since you know about it, you can monitor now.