I have my fiance, yet still have an attachment to my current T and had a deep attachment to ex-T. I actually loved ex-T more than my fiance... But that was probably because there was a lot of dv at that time. Now I love my fiance, but don't love my T. Much more balanced.

Just because you had a deep attachment once, doesn't mean you always will. I thought I would always have maternal transference with women, but I guess I got over that?

I know not many people agree with my T's ways, but it's different so it may work. Mayve work with a new T on termination early on. That way you know the relationship will end and you can learn how to cope with those feelings before the day comes.