For me, I think it was just time and trust. I don't have a significant other in my life. I don't know if I have a particularly healthy sense of attachment; it's not something I've been overly concerned about. I don't actively work on it. When I first started therapy, I was very wary of attaching to anyone at all, much less my T. Then, when I started to trust her a bit and open up more, I became much more attached to her and I struggled when either of us went on vacation. I was constantly looking for reassurance that she would be there for me. Then, as time went on, I slowly found myself building stronger relationships with friends, and my need to feel attached to my T faded. I trusted that she would be there for me in her role as a therapist. I had experience to back up that trust. I think I had to learn to trust someone in a safe environment before I could build solid relationships with others. Once I was able to build those solid relationships, the therapy relationship didn't seem so all consuming.

I'm still attached to T, as I am to all people that I give my trust to. I'll probably miss her when I eventually stop seeing her. I genuinely like her as a person, respect her as a therapist, and am grateful for the help she's provided. But, I doubt it will be traumatic to leave her when it's time.