For most my Ts I didn't have a choice. Either my parents, county, or college chose. One T I just settled on. I didn't really like her, but was in no mood to T shop after the last T transferred. Ex-T I found, and I liked her from the start, so I just stayed. But last time, I saw a T for two weeks, but decided not to stay with her because she was too far away and was judgmental. Then I found current T. We had a really rough patch at the start and I started T searching again. But I wound up staying with current T and working through our issues.