i guess... it is up to you guys to figure out whether you want to work on your marriage or not. i mean, there must have been reasons why you were attracted to each other in the first place and 10 years is a long history together. it might be that some of the things you don't like wouldn't bug you as much if there was more emotional intimacy. maybe...

could you do couples therapy or something?

try and rediscover each other?