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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Have you ever watched the TV show Catfish? There are people who pretend to be the other sex because they want to be thought of as what they want to be.
You may have really heard his voice. He may really live 12 hours away. But, you really don't know for sure.
If you are both into the safe fantasy relationship, I think it's fine. But, I just suggest you should make sure you both understand that's what it is. Just in case he, she, whatever is really crazy and dangerous.
With what happened with me, I didn't use such good judgment. I try not to judge people and get along and click with some really strange personalities. I shouldn't gotten involved with this guy in the first place, then I didn't want to see the red flags, I led him on and encouraged a commitment, then I woke up and pulled away. When that happened, he lost it. So, on some level I really did love him. But I then realized I didn't and ran. I know this is my own mental flaw and issue. I wish I had listened to the red flags from the beginning.
I've done it several times-- encouraging the wrong guy, feeling love then running.
I don't know why.
Do you relate? Do you have intimacy issues with men in real relationships?
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I can relate.
I don't usually lead people on just for fun. But there were times I thought I felt closer to someone than I actually did. But the reality of a commitment and everything that went with it wasn't something I was ready for. And I had to pull back.
Things ended graciously, but if the people involved had been less stable it could have been more dangerous.
I get the impression that is what happened with you.
The fantasy of talking about these things with him is kind of fun....but I guess if he told me he bought a ticket and was on his way out here to make it happen. To be honest, I probably wouldn't really want that.
Maybe I need to make that clear. To me I like the idea as fantasy fodder....but I have no idea if he thinks I'm serious. I don't think so, but I don't know for sure.
I guess I need to think about this. I never considered that he could be taking it seriously. Interesting.... I sort of took for granted we were on the same page.
I never watched Catfish. I don't know if that's happening here. I haven't seen evidence of that yet, then again, who knows?