The first scenario would trigger a huge power struggle for me.

You wanted a hug, and instead of your therapist just giving it like a 'normal person' would, he made you do a) b) and c) and IF the stars aligned with jupiter you *might* have gotten one? Gosh you deserved more.

Agree that if hugs are important, it's worth a revisit. And perhaps looking around if it's a deal breaker.