Have you ever watched the TV show Catfish? There are people who pretend to be the other sex because they want to be thought of as what they want to be.

You may have really heard his voice. He may really live 12 hours away. But, you really don't know for sure.

If you are both into the safe fantasy relationship, I think it's fine. But, I just suggest you should make sure you both understand that's what it is. Just in case he, she, whatever is really crazy and dangerous.

With what happened with me, I didn't use such good judgment. I try not to judge people and get along and click with some really strange personalities. I shouldn't gotten involved with this guy in the first place, then I didn't want to see the red flags, I led him on and encouraged a commitment, then I woke up and pulled away. When that happened, he lost it. So, on some level I really did love him. But I then realized I didn't and ran. I know this is my own mental flaw and issue. I wish I had listened to the red flags from the beginning.

I've done it several times-- encouraging the wrong guy, feeling love then running.

I don't know why.

Do you relate? Do you have intimacy issues with men in real relationships?

Those are most likely not his pictures. The tragedies that he says keep happening to him are probably not real. He sounds like a pretty standard catfish. I would bet money that he is lying to you about himself and his life.

If you want to know, ask him to facetime or skype. If he won't do it, it's because he is not the guy in the pictures.