maybe this will help ...imagine you posted something. then you decided to have your own post removed. before you get it removed someone quoted your post that you do not want on the boards....

me ....bla bla bla bla

I get of the computer and then have second thoughts about my post..

I go back online and delete my post by using edit and using the word "deleted" as the post

my post now shows as a one word post ....deleted

but down underneath my post is your reply to me

post by amandaloise bla bla bla in quote box and underneath that your reply.

I have deleted my original post because I didnt like what I had posted but now what I have posted and have deleted now appears in your post as a qoute. I dont want to change your reply just delete my post that is quoted in your reply.

my point I think this is what the original poster is asking about...

whether their own post can be removed\changed from being quoted after their original post has been edited or deleted.

i dont think its about being controlling and oppressive. just a matter of wanting their own post that they want removed to also be removed from the quotes when they delete their own post.