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Originally Posted by agoodone
Thanks again for the replies. 
I agree with s4ndm4n2006 ....I think there must be some chemistry, at least...for it to go on for so long and remain interesting for both parties. Although that doesn't mean the chemistry will be in person. It could fall flat, but we would never know that without meeting.
In response to divine1966....I'm sure there is a degree of truth to that, but the way you put it makes it sound like I have nothing at all to offer. If they cast that wide a net....don't you think they would get more than one bite? Are you implying I am the only person that has "bitten" out of the thousands they have supposedly written?
I think there is an element of mutual attraction.
I'm not flattering myself, to the contrary. I think disordered attracts disordered. Healthy attracts healthy. Water tends to seek its own level.
I doubt he is serious about the marriage idea, and even if he was, he is not marriage material. I think I am just a way to pass time. Free entertainment. And, I guess, so is he, to me.
So what is the problem? I don't know. As long as we are both content with a fantasy relationship which will never be anything more, I guess there is no problem? And if talking about marriage adds to the fantasy in a way, then, why not? |
After reading more of the thread (yes I skimmed at first and feel badly for it) in response to your "what is the problem?" EVERYTHIGN that everyone has said about all of the red flags being raised right in yoru face, that's what. My original statement remains that online love can happen (with the limitations I also stated) but you have to be looking for the right type of person and seek out signs and evidence of the person being who they say they are.
I won't judge, I've been guilty of overlooking these things online too and I know it's easy to be tempted into the fantasy portion of things and deny that we need the real evidence because frankly the fantasy can be alluring and fun. It is addicting even but without truly nailing down who you are really talking to, you're venturing into dangerous waters, the more you carry on the fantasy without getting real, the harder it will be to let go and danger rises.
In conclusion though, related to this guy, I agree with everyone here. stop responding, block him and move on.