Thank you for the replies.
I am getting nervous now. People are saying he wants something from me but I don't know what. So far all he seems to want is my attention. Sometimes we email back and forth up to 6 hours a day.
Could that be all he wants? Just someone to chat with? Maybe I'm the only person who gives him the kind of attention he likes. He has no other relationships or friends, from what he says.
He sends me songs with very intense obsessive lyrics. Could be he just likes the music? Or do you think he is trying to send me a message? Does he send me the songs because they make him think of me? Nearly every song he sends me is about some intense obsessive love.
The catfish thing is possible. At first it seemed like sort of a game, but now its been going on for over a year. If he was just a catfish trolling me, wouldn't they have gotten tired and moved on now?
I did watch a few episodes of Catfish last night and some of those can go on for years and years though. What do people get out of that? I couldn't imagine creating a false identity just to talk to someone for years. That is really crazy. The identity he has created isn't even a glamourous one, that is why I'm not sure its a catfish. Its not like he claims to be a rich prince or movie director. He's just a regular blue collar guy. And his photos were not model quality or anything. Just a regular guy, although with pleasant, attractive features.
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Is there any GOOD reason you have not already purged this person from your life?
IME and just from reading a gazillion threads here, most of us attempt to change behaviors we find damaging to us or others.
You've mentioned being attracted to weirdos or wrong types of men (sorry can't remember your wording verbatim) knowing that to be fact, why exactly do you not try and change it? 
I'm sorry, I'm just trying to understand your logic in all of this, I don't see how or where it is being applied, and would like to understand you better. |
I guess, call it morbid curiosity. I know intellectually that its an unhealthy relationship and that's why I'm coming on here seeking advice about it.
I am trying to change but for me it comes slowly. I'm doing a lot better now than I used to be. Believe it or not making progress, if you compare me now to how I was a few years ago. Change doesn't happen overnight though.