My husband and I had a heated all day argument yesterday. I put his fist through the pantry door. This morning we printed off a list from the Internet on fair fighting, and calmly discussed it. We set up a plan to start working on how we argue so that we can work toward resolution instead of assassination.

I lived for 10 years in a battering relationship with my ex husband. Every time I look at that door, I panic. I can no longer say that my current husband would never hit me - I don't know if I am over reacting to his anger, or if I am valid in what I am thinking. It's hard to have a past and balance it with your present sometimes. He is willing to put the plan into place and demonstrated this by sitting down with me this morning and re discussing the issue that was so heated yesterday. We followed the steps and came to a balanced fair resolution that both of us compromised in and both of us are happy and satisfied with the results.

I welcome anyone's thoughts on this. Am I over reacting?
Thanks,
Beth