I am familiar with those feelings and situations, I'm a mom,and that has required me to pull out of self care at times, and put all my focus on others' needs.
We're lucky we live in a world where there's opportunity for doing things differently than ever before.
I have also been working on this project of healing for almost 20 years, when I started I didn't know what to do in order to get over the walls of protection I built in my heart and mind, I just started by talking openly and I don't recommend that, most people can't handle a really bad history, but a therapist usually can. Usually. Through the years I got involved with several different spiritual paths, each taught me something important, each allowing me to approach my own healing in different ways. Maybe that's where you can start.
With feeling into where the best place is for you, and just starting, with the intention of healing an aspect of your life. ..of course, there is something else here.
Personality. If you know your personality type, then maybe you can really explore that fully and find out how it might affect your experience with feelings.
If your personality is more of a pragmatic approach to reason, then that's positive too. Not everyone is a feely sort, and we need all kinds of types!

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