My Mom had a boyfriend who was emotional abusive, and he ended up being her husband, and our father. There are three uf us dealing with the emotional abuse that he dished out over the years. We all have problems because of it. Does that help you with your decisions any? He is 78 and she is 75. They are thin and unhealthy and angry and still fighting. It was a miserable, unhappy time, and we still can't go to their house and stay very long because they pass out verbal abuse like candy.