Why would being gay make him less able to relate to your situation ? Relationships - seems to me are sought out by all people for the benefit of each . Have you looked at dating sites ? I have had similar frustrations with my own therapist and I think he is straight . He is married with two young sons but we keep covering the same material when we talk about me finding new relationships - healthy ones . I've been married for a long time and alone these past two years . 3 weeks ago I met with a "relationship expert " , a matchmaker ( I feel better in face to face encounters - people are not always who they purport to be on-line ) So, this service is costly and I'm not prepared to pay for it . I think there must be a lot of reasons people become therapists and some are not as good as others . I'm not a therapist but run support groups for people living with problems who often complain that the group gives them more than the therapist . My therapist is a "listener " - shares very little about himself , because as he says , " this is my time ." I would feel better about disclosing and being vulnerable if he would drop the " professional " stance and just let me get to know him - you know - outside of this role he plays . That's not going to happen ....so I'm "modeling what healthy friendship looks like with him - but we can never be friends . Last Spring he said he wanted me to think about ending therapy . I was blindsided - hurt really - I felt that he had been there for me for years and ending would be my option - and it still is - but it's just put a wedge between us .... How far can I go if my goal is not to be there anymore ? Do you know what I mean ? ( not much help for you , yah ?) Was there a time in your life when you felt like you have a connection ? Male or Female . Does the thought of being intimate with someone scare you ? When did it work out ? And what do you think made it work ? Why did it end ? Who ended it ? Was it mutual ? What do you like to do to enjoy yourself ? Have you tried Meet-up groups ? I have met a lot of good people in meet-ups who just share an interest like hiking -