I don't know if it will work, ultimately, anymore than losing weight for someone else seems to work? But the more of "him" you can get into you and incorporate in your own manner/style, I think that is good.

I still have how I feel/felt when I consciously decided to wear my wedding ring to T because I loved the look of her hand with her wedding ring on it, the "strength" and "nobility" (no good word to express quite what I mean) and supportability of that hand. I wanted that hand.

It sounds like you are connecting to your T with the SI in some way like that; your other areas of relationship with T are influencing the rest of you? Sounds like a really good/heavy move forward.