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Honestly... I don't know what to tell you about this. I'm not a religious person either. So I can't really relate to this situation on that level. But it is my perspective that the "intersection" of sexuality & religion has been causing catastrophic collisions for religious people for thousands of years!

It does certainly sound as though this woman is addicted to sex. From my perspective, I don't know that she should forego her religious calling. But I do think she needs to pursue some mental health therapy in an effort to deal with her sex addiction. (It may be wise for her to be checked out medically too... perhaps by an endocrinologist, or other secialist. It could be there is something physical going on here.)

I don't think that refusing to have sex with your lady is the answer. As you said, if the two of you don't have sex, she'll just masturbate. Something is driving her addiction to sex. And this needs to be addressed. But, in the meantime, trying to artificially enforce some sort of abstinence is, it seems to me, just compounding the problem. At least these are my thoughts...

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