I'm a non. My ex girlfriend has BPD. During our relationship things started out good, but she eventually started criticizing everything.

I mean we had an apartment, I was sitting on the stairs talking to a guy who was my neighbor, she'd go, "why do you sit so close to him?"

It wasn't that close, I asked if he cared & if he thought it was close. He didn't.

She criticized my driving, clothes, how I walked, mannerisms, and basically I couldn't move without it being judged.

It was like passive aggressive, but I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong, because I'd even ask her what I was doing that's bothering her, try to work on it, and she'd still flip out.

I later heard from multiple people different things, some didn't even know each other, that she'd say things when I wasn't around.

She'd talk about how "easy" I had it, how I always, "got away with everything without anything bad happening". To one person she called me things like "golden boy" and "everybody loves perfect Chris."

I'm not that perfect, I don't have a lot of money, I'm not socially special or tall or super good looking or anything, just a respectful person, always keep my promises, everybody gets along with me.

And no matter what happens I'm always optimistic, even in the worst situations (no anxiety, fear), and generally a happy person no matter how bad things are. Basically I have a good handle on my emotions.

She cheated on me, lied to me, stole from me, and I later found out this stuff that she was jealous of me.

I can understand she might be jealous. I just don't get why she was so mean, because I always tried my best to listen, never put her down, or made her feel less than, and supported her.

Last time I left for a couple months, she called after a break up, said she wanted to get back together. I told her I didn't know, she goes, "is there any hope?" and stuff so I gave it another chance.

Within a week and a half she calls to tell me she's back with her ex but I'm "still her best friend" & goes sorry.

I got mad at her, not because she went back, but because I asked her multiple times if she was sure she wanted to work things out, and she lied to me, because I always kept my promises to her 110%.

I stopped calling her & she hasn't called me since.

I'm just trying to get insight on what happens in a BPD mind so I can understand her perspective. Do BPDs resent people who seem really happy? I really don't get it.