Sorry this is happening for you. I can relate to how hard it is to find a T that is even a possibility to work with, let alone then having to go through the process of establishing a connection with the chosen person.
Do you have a list of what you want / don't want in a t? On top of my list is usually an understanding, acceptance and experience with DID and other dissociative disorders. We all know they all *should* know and accept it, but sadly that just isn't the reality in practise.