A slow cognitive processing speed is not necessarily correlated with low intelligence nor does it fully explain a lack of social skills. I was diagnosed with a slow processing speed but I also have a 141 IQ and a PhD. While I'm more on the introverted side, I don't have the struggles with communication that you describe. From your other threads, it seems that your problem has more to do with suppressed anger, misogyny, a feeling of "life is not fair!" and a lack of imitative to work on distorted thought patterns. Introversion and processing speed might contribute to these things, but they are not the primary source. Since I also hav the processing speed issue, I will say that there are moments when my processing speed does affect me (I hate doing Q&As after giving conference papers because it takes me an extra moment to formulate a good answer) but it doesn't affect me when it comes to social small talk. My introversion does make it harder for me to "jump in" when I'm in a large group or around new people, but not when I'm 1:1 or with people I know. I would say I'm good one on one, but only so-so in groups. if I'm with someone who is more introverted than I am, I usually kind of "fake" being an extrovert and drive the conversation. (In fact, I did that on a date tonight). I'm pretty sure no one would associate my introversion with being "boring." Personally, I'm most attracted to people who are in the middle. I don't like it when I'm with someone who needs to be the center of attention and makes new friends wherever we go. I would rather be with someone who focuses their attention on me. At the same time, I don't like being with someone who just sits there like a lump, because it means I have to do the work of entertaining them (like on my date tonight). I prefer to be with someone where there is a natural back and forth, where we can have interesting conversations, laugh, etc. I would say that most of my friends are slightly more on the introverted side, but pretty close to the middle. That is how I would describe myself, too. I think your distorted thought patterns (which have been discussed on the forums numerous times) are really more of an issue though than either introversion or processing speed.