My ex-t would try to convince me that wanting validation, reassurance, sympathy was not good for me. That I should give that to myself so she would rarely do those things. I tried to believe what she said and understood what she was trying to do. I defended her due to my attachment.
New and current T said she can't believe I was shamed for wanting what could be defined as basic human needs. She has been very validating reassuring and sympathetic. It hasn't made me worse and I have felt the most normal I've ever felt in therapy. I'm actually less dependent on her and less depressed.
My point is this is your therapist's opinion but ultimately you get to decide what is best for you and what will help you heal.
In my last sessions with ex-t I told her that I DO need those things for many reasons. She agreed which made me more angry. She knew I needed them but just wasn't willing to give them to me.
It might be a good exercise to interview other therapists. I thought no one in my small town would be willing to give more and I was wrong.

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