AK as usual you raise a good point. I’ve recently realize that I am looking to explore the concept of emotional intimacy for the first time. Unfortunately, I really have had very little understanding of what it means to be deeply connected to someone. My past, be it what it may, has left me a person who has always only relied solely on myself. I never really counted on anyone to be there when I might need emotional support. I’m the type of person who always have at least 2 plan “B’s” to fall back on if necessary. In an effort to protect myself from being hurt by others, I’ve usually kept my personal feeling and thoughts mainly to myself. I don’t think these characteristics are all bad; I’m just questioning if this is how I want to be. As bad as it sounds I am just not sure I want to expose more of myself and become more vulnerable to my husband. I’m not sure he has what I think I want? This may also be just another layer of defensive behavior that I am working through.