We start counseling this week.

But just to be clear I didn't seek out someone to retaliate with, I found someone to talk to about 8 months later. This person happened to be an ex which was my first mistake, but he made me feel special. My husbands cheating made me feel like my marriage was already broken so I had nothing to lose. So it was wrong but it was not retaliation. The guy lived 400 miles away so when I called hime I felt a relationship was impossible, if I started it as a retaliation I would have not chosen someone closer and easier.