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Old Jun 18, 2016, 10:12 AM
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Originally Posted by shakespeare47 View Post
I suspect that one of the reasons I had an issue with CBT when I was first exposed to it, is because I came from a family in which it was common for my parents to tell each other, "you think that because you're crazy, and can't see it for what it is", in an abusive way. My brother also picked up on this tactic and used it on me....

It took a while for me to be able to acknowledge that most of the emotional reactions we experience are caused by the judgments we make.

Have you thought abut DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)? Its creator, Dr. Marsha Linehan, felt that CBT could cause people to feel invalidated because of all the emphasis on faulty cognition. So she incorporated more "acceptance of how things are" in her model which is very gentle. Dialectical means holding two opposing thoughts. In DBT that would be accepting how things are at the moment but also realizing if one wants to meet one's goals than one must be open to change. There is a forum here on DBT with a lot of people who graduated from DBT training programs, and they could tell you more. Officially, DBT is considered a cognitive therapy, so it is basically CBT without as much of the invalidating stuff. Good luck.
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Thanks for this!
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