Hello and welcome to PC!
It sounds like you want a romantic relationship with a man. I don't think this is an issue of sexuality or gender.
You're just not a girlie girl. Men love all kinds of women. Just be confident being whatever type you are.
It sounds like you are attractive and people are attracted to you. You just get insecure attracting attention.
I am the extreme other way- a total femme fatale. The little girl who played dress-up. Totally love making an entrance. An actress.
Think of The Spice Girls... You're maybe more like Sporty Spice

. Very sexy.