sounds like you know he is abusive. It also sounds like you are planning to change some of the dysfunctional behaviors from the abuse of your past. You are goign to see a therapist and you are wishing to change things in life that have prevented you from getting the life you really want. Given that, it seems this might be an opportunity to do that. I guess that is the bottom line decision (although I know finances are important too, but it seems he wasnt really helping much anyway).