I dread Mothers Day but Fathers Day is way worse. I know that T is a father, and a grandfather, and so I am making a huge effort to not contact him this weekend since it's Fathers Day tomorrow (in the US). I feel like it's family time, and he deserves a break from needy clients. But the fact that I have paternal transference for him makes me sad, and I find myself longing to be held by him: How wonderful it must be to be his child, and feel his nurturing presence and hear his lovely reassuring voice whenever it's needed. Is anyone else struggling in the same way about Father'sDay (or Mothers Day if maternal transference applies?)