I had a bad time this mother's day just gone, first since I lost Mum. My 'auntie' called but had nothing nice or helpful to say at all, just talked for about a minute and a half about my brother and my dad, though she did say thanks for the card I sent there was nothing else there. (It wasnt a mothers day card i sent ber but just a card, me trying to reach out to people who might have given a ****) I don't think I was wrong to expect her to ask how I was doing or to say that she thought she would call because I might be having a hard time. She didn't even mention the fact it was mothers day. (I didn't have a good relationship with my Mum but it doesn't mean I wasn't struggling).

Anyway, long story short, when I told old T about this and how it left me feeling like I had been kicked in the face while I was already down she said in her lovely, calm, reassuring voice, "I thought about you on Mother's day" and it was the first time I managed to actually lookher in the eyes and I saw genuine care. I will always remember that, and her, on Mother's day from now on.