Gee justjen, your post sounds VERY familiar to me. I was told so many times that I was wrong for feeling the way I was feeling, that it was ME that was the problme, even told that I was "crazy".

That hurts and it's confusing. I finally went to counseling(due to severe major depression) and started to learn how it all fit together and that it takes TWO people for a relationship to struggle/run into obstacles-- NOT just one person.

If you're not in counseling yet, maybe doing so could help.

And sharing things here helps too, and also for me-- just reading others experiences and how they have coped has given me some insight too.

wishing you the best,

mandy