What advice did your pastor give you? Honestly stop ignoring everyone on here. If you just want to vent then start a blog?

There is no point in is telling you anything new because we have said the same thing every thread - she doesn't want to be your friend and you are not being respectful of that. You keep putting her in situations where she either has to be vague, lie, etc. She clearly isnt comfortable being upfront with you and is trying to get it across to you subtly.

She went to your pastor for a reason. Because she wants to be kind to you but does not want to be friends. What did the pastor say?!