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Old Jun 18, 2016, 10:56 PM
DechanDawa DechanDawa is offline
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Originally Posted by Ceara1010 View Post
As a believer in one-day-at-a-time approaches to change, I think this contract idea is a good one though I've never done something like this before. I mostly just try to monitor my thinking and catch myself.

I didn't see in any of your posts whether your contracts also include trying to use constructive/positive talk to replace the destructive/negative talk. Just silencing those destructive thoughts isn't enough, you need to replace them with something that will be helpful to you.

--Ceara1010

Good point. I try to do a gratitude practice. For instance, I am having to spend a lot of money on truck repairs in the coming week. It can be very stressful thinking about this. However, my gratitude practice is to remind myself that I have a mechanic I really trust and like. The truth is...I have a lot of "silver linings" in my life but I tend not to focus on them.

I have to do a daily written contract because this habit of negative thoughts is so deeply worn I need to monitor myself. It seems extreme but my negative thinking really gets in the way of my coping.

I also think more positive opportunities would present themselves if I have a positive attitude.
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