Some people love being hateful, sometimes for the attention and other times out of spite. I had a mean sister-in-law that gave me grief all the time to the point she made me cry or get very depressed. She would twist my words and get the whole family mad at me for something I never said. Then I learned to play the game and took all her power away. The game means when she said something hurtful I laughed at her. When she got really nasty instead of fighting with her I would laugh at what she said and then turn and walk away. I avoided her as much as possible and found that when we had to be together she would now be nice. This takes a lot of inner strength cause the stuff they say still hurts but don't let them have the power of knowing that it does. Also don't hold in all that pain and anger. Write it in a journal, talk to a good friend, or your doc. Cause all that held in can make depression worse or cause it. Good luck to you.