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Old Jun 19, 2016, 09:30 AM
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Originally Posted by lolagrace View Post
She wants you to do this for you. She's allowing you to reach the place where you can process on your own between sessions and not need that contact between sessions. She's chosen that path of not dictating that to you, but instead allowing you to reach that place on your own. But you DO rely on those emails and they DO make you more attached to her. I know you don't think so, but you have only on rare occasions been able to delay that gratification of contact between sessions.
You're right. I'm not ready to stop being attached to her. I never resolved my attachment issues. I went from one T to another. That's not going to happen this time. So if my T isn't forcing me and I'm not ready, that's the way it is so maybe I should just accept it for now. I don't ask to hold her hand, and stopping that came entirely from me. I just don't have the same feeling about emailing so I suppose that means I'm not ready to stop yet.