I agree with lolagrace. And hugs to you, Rainbow! Y'know, I've had to sit down with 15 (my inner 15 year old) on more than one occasion and have talks with her when she's started her foot-stomping about different things. I admit it seems weird the first time. But it gets more natural.

Also I'm thinking when you said "I don't ask to hold her hand, and stopping that came entirely from me." isn't this progress, and an indication that the same thing will happen with the emails when you're ready? You've dealt with a lot and it takes us as long as it takes us, I don't mean to sound trite by saying that, but everyone has their own timelines on stuff.

I may not be making sense this morning sorry if I'm rambling.

ETA a PS: I don't know why I never asked her about it but - one time awhile back I asked t "Why can't I leave you alone between sessions?" (which was a lot like what you said, processing of a session, that I'd send her usually a couple hours afterward.) Her answer? She laughed!! It wasn't a mean laugh, it felt to me a whole lot like one of those "I recognize myself in you" kind of laughs, so I let it go and did not ask her either why she laughed or to actually answer the question.