I honestly think it is you that keeps bringing this email issue up over and over again with your T, therefore making it a bigger problem than it is? I could be WAY off base, and please tell me if I am.

I email my T as well, and sometimes it is a few hours after session, or the next day--like you I process by writing, and my T realizes that. Or sometimes I just am having a hard time, so I email her to call me...etc. My T is different in that I think she lets other clients email her as well, and she usually responds back to what I write. Every once in awhile she doesn't, and she apologizes, but its usually because life happened, which she is always careful to tell me when I freak out that I am contacting her too much.

Sorry--didn't mean to go on a tangent. If e-mailing her after each session to process what you talked about works, and she keeps saying she doesn't want you to stop....then is there a problem? The only thing I wonder about, is your disappointment if she doesn't reply, or not write enough in response. That is where I can see where she might think its not helpful to you, because it keeps you stuck in that loop.