Okay, please don't take this the wrong way; I say it affectionately, but this response sounds like the response of a small child -- like it comes from a very young place. All the "why's". Remember that phase your kids went through -- wanting it their way, not wanting change, and a bit petulantly stomping their feet and saying "that's not fair! I hate you!" I really, really don't mean that as an insult, but since you do that kind of work in therapy, perhaps your adult Rainbow needs to sit down and talk to this young, angry Rainbow. Maybe the adult Rainbow needs to run the show on this one? Just throwing that out there for your consideration. Toss it away if I'm way off base and I very well might be.