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Originally Posted by BayBrony
My T talks a lot about the "space between". Admittedly I need and get a lot more contact than you , but there are still compromises we need to make (,for example we discuss my emails in session unless I request a response in a special situation. And I can text as much as I want as long as I can tolerate not always getting a response or even a response that day). My T says dealing with the frantic need for her without it being met allows me to start to explore and dispute the narrative in my head that says she does not love me. The space between contact is where deep work happens. Now, I only know what you post here of your life, but I know for me there is truth to that as long as I get enough contact that I can maintain our connection.
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I like your T's way of doing therapy very much! My T is similar, as we've noted before, I think. I have finally internalized that my T cares for/loves me even with no contact between sessions, but I still feel unsettled. My emailing her and getting one brief response is enough for me but I still need it, or feel like I need it. I like the concept of "space between." I know my T would too though she's never used it with me. I have to keep working on it. Thank you for sharing your experience.