Happy Sunday, couch! It is a happy one indeed for me - h and I just paid off our credit card, which was what we had to put car insurance and h's hearing aid on (it was upwards of $4,000 when we started diligently working to pay it off). We have worked very hard to not have credit card debt since our bankruptcy, and it was weighing heavily on both of us owing that. I have been thinking a lot the past few days about how hard we have both worked to get that paid off - and I think it says something about our marriage, something that I have been overlooking when one or the other of us is acting stupid. We are in this together, and that is something I really need to remember. Perhaps finally accepting my Self, Shadow and all, has led me to a deeper acceptance of his - he's not a bad person, he just gets caught up in his own complexes from time to time, and then my complexes get activated, and it's a mess for a bit, but as I learn to manage my own better.... it becomes less of an issue. The last "incident" we had, I handled it without t and I didn't even bother you guys about it. How's that for progress? I've come a huge long way in the past almost 5 years. Even since I started posting on PC I've grown a ton. And y'all have been a part of that. Thank you.