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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
As to whether it's therapeutic to stay in the situation when someone who is supposed to counsel you is also an object of your strong attraction, I feel the same way as you do. It wouldn't be therapeutic for me right now and I would never stay in that situation after what I've learned from my experience. But I usually refrain from giving others advice to do the same.
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Yea I dont like to give advice either, and was just making a general comment. OP's situation might be more tolerable.
Here's the thing though. Being with a T that you are obsessing over might not be healthy, but if you have formed a strong attachment or dependency, then stopping might not be healthy either. This is one of the things I REALLY resent about my last therapy -- being put in that position. I had to choose between continuing to have my heart crushed and be tormented and humiliated, or end it and suffer abandonment type trauma and anguish.
And the worst scenario is when the client is lured into this kind of situation, AND dares to express their true feelings, AND then is terminated by the therapist for having done so. Or, even if the client leaves voluntarily because disclosing their feelings has made the whole thing unbearable, it's about the same.