I no longer really encounter this issue that often these days due to being heavy, but surprisingly, there are guys out there who still stare at me. I still don't really know how to react to them, so I normally try to get away from them or ignore them. I'm married and not looking of course.

Anyways, on a recent trip, my husband told me that a lot of Indian guys were staring at me. I didn't notice that. I don't dress that sexy. I wore maxi dresses most of the time. I don't think that I'm that pretty either although some people think that I'm pretty still. I did see one guy stare at me in the elevator, and wow, that made me feel so awkward! It was obvious that I was with my husband, so why would I still get stared at?

I think that it's VERY rude to stare at a woman! If a guy finds a woman attractive, he should just glance at whoever he's attracted to, but not STARE! That's just weird! And these are mostly adult men who do this! Not teenagers usually! I sometimes feel like giving them dirty looks. I can't always do that in some cases though.

For example, yesterday we went out to dinner with some relatives and this creepy old guy who was with a female companion STARED at me almost the whole time we were there! I'm in my early 40's, but I look 30 to most people. So that made things weirder considering that he looked like he was at least 70 years or older! WTH? Ugh! So rude! My husbands back was to him, and I couldn't say anything to anyone at that time.

I did look at that guy with this what are you looking at look a few times, but that didn't stop him from staring at me. I looked around, and yes indeed, he was staring at me and not someone or something else.

Anyways, another guy who was in his late twenties to early thirties was staring at me at this one attraction. Again I was with my husband. I noticed him taking pics of some flowers close to me a few times. I thought that it was just a coincidence, but then I saw him standing next to me when I was taking a pic for a long time. I then noticed him for sure when my husband went to the bathroom. He didn't go to the bathroom.

He followed us and then just looked at me. I didn't know what to do, so I just looked at him briefly with a what are you looking at look and then looked away. Later my husband told me that he noticed that too. He usually notices these things a lot more than I do since he tends to be more observant. He isn't the jealous type, and he even feels a little flattered that other guys find me attractive, lol!

Guys, can you offer me any insight into this weird behaviour? I don't get why a guy would stare at me when I'm with my husband. And like I said, I'm fat and I don't even dress that sexy. I have a large bust, but I don't show cleavage. According to what I hear on here and the media, it seems like most of you find heavy women repulsive, so this makes no sense to me. I'm a size 12 and huge at 185lbs. I'm only 5'4.

And ladies, how do you deal with guys who just stare at you? Do you give them dirty looks, or do you smile at them if you're with your husband or b.f? Or do you just try to ignore them? My husband did confirm that they guy seem like he was interested in me sexually, the last guy who stared at me. And he said that about the other guys who stared at me, both young and old ones.