i guess i think... why do people need the attention? or why would people feel spiteful? i figure it is probably that they feel spiteful because anger is a fairly typical response to ones needs being frustrated. and that they need the attention because people do need attention and if we don't receive the attention we need when we are little we often have that need still fairly much unmet later in life.

that way... i can feel a bit of sympathy for the person instead of retaliating. often people don't see that they are misinterpreting or being uncharitable because all they are really aware of it their pain. they don't appreciate the things they do that are causing pain in others.

its a sad situation. it can be hard to be around people who are demanding of attention. it can be emotionally draining. i find that the people who i find hardest to cope with... are typically people who reflect aspects of myself that i do not like.

but yeah. sometimes walking away is the best thing to do. for ones sanity.