I'm trying to teach myself that too.

Thanks Crocus and Waterbear, reading your words, I almost started crying on the bus after work.

A friend might go with me to scout out the location of the counseling organisation... I'll think about an appointment again. That organisation trained the counsellors at an LGBT counseling place, so I'm also considering a female pansexual counsellor at the LGBT place.

I just need to check how much a session will cost at both places. Sliding scale based on income at both.

I might ask my clinical psychologist (in a public hospital) again if she can be an ally. If she says no, I'll ask if she has a colleague I can see briefly for LGBT stuff. If no, i'll make the counseling appointment.