I use to look up both of us in the phone book, make sure we both still existed :-)

Go to a card store and find a card that fits what you're feeling/the "next" holiday. It gets to be fun (finding a "Mother's Day" card appropriate for your male T). I still like the Valentine Card I got that said something like "You're always asking me how I feel! Well, I'll tell you how I feel. . ." open it up, "I feel fine". Mother's Day cards are no picnic trying to find the "appropriate" one for a female T when you don't want to go into the "mothering" role either! But the experience is very distracting and can be entertaining and educational even. You start thinking what kind of card would be appropriate for T's and designing a line of cards like that, etc. :-) They have divorce cards now, why not a line of cards to give one's T? Beats poetry all to heck.