Well, I'm not in the stage of life where I am looking for relatioships as I am in a pretty great one. Still, when I go out I tend to gravitate towards people for different reasons. Of course there are those that are the life of the party. Yes they are outgoing, but are they vain? Are they working the crowd for their own benefit? Are they stealing energy from those around them? Are they cultivating a persona? These things are very annoying - and it pisses me off to see people drawn in by that - to me and thiis is where I find someone become unattractive. It even seems their physical attribute become ugly too.

The extrovert I am attracted to is of the kind that is the life of the party in a way that they are inclusive to those around them, the kind that shares energy and gives it back to the crowd. This person is always encouraging those around them to enjoy and have input; He/she will be truely interested in wanting to ensure those around them are enjoying themselves. And it is this extovert to which I am attracted. Likewise they become increasingly physically beautiful.

But there are introverts to which I have an attraction too. I admit it is not as instant as it may be to the extrovert. But, even if quietly, the introvert wants to participate and share, I can find myself drawn to them.

Finally, there is the person who puts on an air of extroversion yet is actually the introvert at heart. While this fakery isn't always good I find myself seeing myself. I speak of the person who is so scared that they overdo putting on a mask of extroveresion as a defence mechanism. Often I find such a kindred spirit. Infact, it is just such sort of a person that is my boyfriend. While it often takes a lot out of him to do so he manages to be one of those that people in a group gravitate too. But I know how much this takes out of him fighting off the fear to do so.